As the body ages, so does the mind and brain. But "stage" never gets old!

Take a look around you. The age of the entire world is increasing. People who used to think that 60 years old is old, have now reached a stage where they don't accept 80 years old. Along with better living conditions, modern hospitals have increased life expectancy and the number of elderly in our midst is increasing. The attitude of elders has changed with time. Now they don't accept calling anyone "old man", "old man"! Unless they can be called "grandpa" around their grandchildren, others say "Dad/Grandma, how are you?" Calling them "adults" respectfully brings pride to their faces.

 

A common complaint is that these seniors with life experience do not listen to their grown children (now seniors themselves). When society stands aside and advises children, children become helpless. They also condemn their parents for being strict like their children. Why is that?? When children are told not to do certain things/activities out of concern for their health, what if adults stick around? As the body ages, so does the mind and brain. But "stage" never gets old! Energy that diminishes with age creates a kind of "fear of death." In the minds of self-employed and non-retired people, their rights have been taken away, their needs taken away. In such cases, the 'missing song' prevents children from listening. Similarly, parents do not watch their children well and let them do what they want; On the other hand, he is old, he is not saying even if we give him everything that is sufficient. They wander without listening to us. Children often say "we are your burden" as soon as it is a health problem; This is a big problem these days. Who is right? Who is at fault? Who should listen to whom?!

 

 

As a psychiatrist, every day I see these elders and their children, I feel that they are both "good", "Is their behavior appropriate for their age? In many families, children cannot leave their work, leave. After school, come to the village to be with their parents. So a son/ If the daughter says to her parents, "You come, stay with us, I'll do it here", the parents are not ready to leave them. To stay for a long time" . In such endurance, men prevail! Along with this, he often thinks about something "strange": "I haven't seen this fatigue in years, doctor. Never climbed the steps of a hospital, four times went to camp. Now I'm tired." "He goes back and forth" is his hope! But now, it is not easy for him to accept that what he has is not a disease, but a natural process called "decline". His children know him. But they do not know how to explain it to the elders. This causes many conflicts between adults and children.

 

How can the situation be improved? Things to watch out for seniors

 

• You are eligible; was examined. Think about the bad behavior problems your elders caused you when you were younger/their role models did well. • Others in the community may respect you; But you cannot take that responsibility. Respect children's effort and concern, speak clearly. • Don't say "You are a burden to the children". By repeating this over and over again children can also be born. It is wise to impose some restrictions on yourself to maintain your health. Be active in family relationship settings. What to look for in older children

 

• Caregiving role of parents. Can also bring gratitude. Don't forget to set an example for your children.

 

• Don't immediately respond to society by saying, "You should have done this, you should have looked this way." If you have done your job honestly, leave it at that. If in doubt, seek professional advice. We are your company!

 

• Don't think your kids aren't watching you when you're helping the elderly in public.

 

• Do not read/involve adults in activities of public institutions without asking/convincing their children. • Give advice quickly, avoid being a time hero.

 

Let us all follow these tips to improve the lives of the elderly and give them a "clear mind from childhood".