Has it been a year since he sat down and ate with us? Even if we call him, he shrugs. He gets angry if he tries to say something. Shows impatience. He is worried that he has built another world.
He gives the example of his friends for everything. He thinks that what we are doing for him is nothing. He doesn't feel that mom and dad are there to take care of his needs, they have their own existence. This behavior of the son is very annoying...
If you speak one, she will answer ten. Now she doesn't like the clothes we bring. If you question anything, she acts harshly. No matter what is done for her, there is no satisfaction. She is not happy even after giving everything she asked for.
This is the story of many houses. Complaints of parents about children, resentment of children about parents is always present. This conflict changes its form and definition and causes a kind of unrest in households. Because of this conflict, parents and children stumble through the doors of private counseling centers.
The biggest challenge these days is parenting. There is confusion in the matter of child nutrition. Anxiety no matter how raised; Something to worry about. If there are more working fathers and mothers, their restlessness cannot be said. Children have the problem of being concerned about the language spear, harshness, quick reactions that change day by day, getting anxious and needing to be comforted.
They rejoice at the small joys children give, listen to the small sweet news they bring, find happiness in the joys they want, pour all their hard work and live the dreams of children. The only question that many people have is that why do the children we raise get angry when they see us.
Even if the desired world is brought and presented to them, why do the children become rebels? Regardless of respect, Kinchit sees parents as unworthy of love. How to cool this anxiety? .
What can be done to prevent conflict between children and parents? The dangers that can be faced are not less because the parents compromise everything and provide them with everything they want. Is it so easy to prepare children to accept the socio-economic limitations of mom and dad?
The conflict between children and parents is not new, it exists in all times and in all classes. He says that the way of looking at it has changed now
Their children should not experience the hardships, pain, humiliation and defeats they experienced in childhood. Parents who want to provide all the privileges to them should be convinced that this is not a mindset conducive to the development of their children. Giving them everything before they want it is not the solution to this problem. Children need the experience of gaining as well as losing. Just winning is not life. There should also be an experience of defeat. If a thing is handed over to them as soon as they hear it, if everything gets tangled up without effort, they will not have the experience of life. If you give everything that is asked, it means that you are leading the children in the wrong way. He says, tolerance, patience, adaptability should be taught along with losing.
However, most parents lack the skills to manage such children. Apart from this, they also become anxious and torment the children. They go on to impose their social-family expectations, personal ideals, thoughts, annoyance at the workplace, mental stress and all the emotions on the children. Thus, they also become frustrated, and sow impatience in the children.
The main reason for the conflict is the age gap between the two. There is a gap of at least 30 years between children and parents. It is wrong to see in children the childhood, life and behavior of 30 years ago. Don't forget that there is a gap of 30 years between your life and their life,' says Bharti Singh, a close consultant in Bangalore.
If the cause is known, the solution is easy
Every behavior of children has a reason. The sooner the cause is identified, the sooner the problem can be resolved. Sometimes, some kids act like this to see if you will accept their behavior, attitude, decisions.
Sometimes imitation can be done by watching other children. Seeing such behavior in relatives' children, neighbors or friends, they may also start doing the same. This is not proper behavior. They should be convinced in a gentle manner that such behavior is not acceptable.
A child may behave this way to get your attention, to spend time with you, to socialize and lighten up. Make some time for them. They can do this to avoid parental control over their lives and gain independence. It can also be a result of hormonal changes that you don't understand yourself. Be calm and patient. Know the reason behind their behavior and try to address it in the right way. If that is not possible within your limits then take the help of relatives, friends, teachers or experts.
A child is a beautiful poem. It is not something that can be understood at once. However, it is not an incomprehensible Mahagrantha. Must be read with care. It should be fixed with love. Only then it can become the epic of our life.
Do this...
- Don't expect children to take every step with parental permission.
- Don't impose all your dreams on children. He is the dreamer who has slipped your hand, the aspirant
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